Well this holiday season has opened up my eyes on how much my son has changed. Lately he has been showing his un-appreciation for what he has. I know that every child goes through this stage. I just never realized how difficult it is to deal with this stage. Every time we go out to a store he expects to be getting something (and we never buy him something every time we go out) and every time there is a commercial for the newest thing he wants it. But when it comes to picking up his toys and taking care of what he already as he wants nothing to do with it. He has been working on cleaning his room for a week now (and his father has helped and along with me with parts so that it's not as overwhelming for him) but he doesn't care that he has no floor to play on. We have threatened to throw away toys if he's not going to clean. We have even told him that Christmas will not come unless he starts showing that he can be responsible and take care of what he has. But as I type he is still playing around and not cleaning and there is not that much left to clean up.
So I have spent the last couple of days reflecting on what has been brewing in my household. And the light bulb has clicked!!!!! What am I providing as a proper example on how my son should appreciate what he has in life???????? I do appreciate what I have but at the same time I don't and I occasionally what the newest thing that's out whether it is electronics or something for my hobbies. I complain how I can't stand the way something I have isn't working properly or how old it is getting (i.e. my laptop)...................................... When we go out shopping there are times when I will get something for me even when I stand there and tell my child how $$$ is tight and we can't get that new toy he wants. There are days when I just don't feel like cleaning and I walk away from the mess. Even in my relationship I have been showing the un-appreciation of what I have just because it's not exactly what I envisioned a relationship to be like.
So I guess the first place I need to start is working on myself and how I act when it comes to tasks that need to be taken care of. And I need to start showing appreciation for what I have in my life and not complain how I wish I could have something that I cannot afford at the moment. Because if I cannot change these traits in my self how can I expect my 9 year old to change?!?!?!?!?!?!?
So I am starting my New Years resolution list now and on the top is going to be learning how to appreciate what we have because unfortunately there are people out there in this world who are not fortunate enough to have what we have. I will be looking into organizations that will open up my families eyes to what is going on around us as we live in home where we have food and heat and love........ And I will be blogging about our experience and I believe posting this will help me follow through with it.